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This Is Why Mid-Becoming Exists
For the woman who is tired of watching everyone perform their healing while she's actually in the middle of hers.
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Navigating the Five Stages of Reinventing Your Life
May 27
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You're Self-Sabotaging. Here's How to Start Breaking the Pattern.
Feb 14
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Aliyah Vasquez
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What Flipping A House Taught Me About Shadow Work
Jan 12
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Aliyah Vasquez
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Everyone thought we were thriving.
Mar 19
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Aliyah Vasquez
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Did I build the wrong life?
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Everyone thought we were thriving.
I was crying in the shower every morning for almost a full year.
Mar 19
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Aliyah Vasquez
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You Aren't Stuck. You're Avoiding Discomfort.
Those are two different problems, and you've been solving the wrong one.
Jun 4
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Aliyah Vasquez
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When You Stop Pretending, Some People Can't Handle It
Not everyone survives your becoming with you.
Apr 30
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Aliyah Vasquez
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The Life That Looks Perfect on Paper
When everything checks out and nothing feels right
Feb 10
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Aliyah Vasquez
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The Life You Built to Prove You’re Responsible Is Killing You
Everything looked right. That was the problem.
Jan 31
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Aliyah Vasquez
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Am I getting in my own way?
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You’re Not Lazy. You’re Just Protecting Yourself.
Your nervous system isn't broken. It's doing exactly what you trained it to do.
Jan 31
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Aliyah Vasquez
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The Perfectionist's Lie: How I Spent Two Years Calling Self-Sabotage Something Else
Perfectionism feels like high standards, but it's actually a very efficient way to never finish anything.
May 21
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Aliyah Vasquez
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Your "Guilt" Is Lying to You
What it's actually protecting and how to stop letting it make your decisions for you.
Mar 26
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Aliyah Vasquez
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The Risk That Doesn’t Look Like a Risk
You don’t need to blow up your life to start living differently. But you do need to stop pretending you’re fine with the one you have.
Feb 26
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Aliyah Vasquez
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You're Self-Sabotaging. Here's How to Start Breaking the Pattern.
Welcome to Mid-Becoming. If you just took the quiz (or you're feeling stuck and don't know why), start here.
Feb 14
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Aliyah Vasquez
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Who am I, really?
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Shadow Work Is Not What You Think It Is
You keep seeing the term everywhere. Here is what it actually means, why it keeps finding you, and what to do with it.
Apr 9
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Aliyah Vasquez
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What Your Envy Is Actually Trying to Tell You
There is a specific kind of envy that nobody wants to be honest about.
Apr 2
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Aliyah Vasquez
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The Things You Learned Before You Had Words for Them
The messages that shaped you weren’t always spoken. But you absorbed them anyway. And they’re still making decisions for you today.
Mar 5
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Aliyah Vasquez
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What Flipping A House Taught Me About Shadow Work
The tree didn't care about my standards. Neither did the basement. That's when I finally understood what my perfectionism was actually protecting.
Jan 12
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Aliyah Vasquez
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How Do I Heal My Inner Child?
The answer isn’t more awareness. It’s grief.
May 7
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Aliyah Vasquez
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